Print of You · the sixteen axes

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let the course come about ←→ help set the course

When a relationship changes, is it because you pushed, or because it grew that way on its own?

Every change in a relationship, getting closer or making it official: did you push it, or did it grow on its own? People who push are handling uncertainty by acting. People who let it grow are giving the relationship room to breathe. We look at the one concrete step you told us about. Who moved first? “Both of us” and “hard to say” count as answers too.